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Do you know what the one thing is that everyone has in common? Rich and poor, old and young, tall short, pro novice… Everyone, no matter their current trajectory in life, no matter how successful or otherwise, no matter their race, religion, gender…
This is one common bond that binds everyone.
EVERYONE has this one thing in common.
What do you think that is?
Have a guess.
Ready for the answer? Here it is…
Or rather, challenges, and/or setbacks, as I prefer to refer to them – those are more accurate descriptors. As a matter of fact, from here on I will mainly refer to failures as challenges and/or setbacks. The why will become clear a bit later, during the rest of today’s talk.
Challenges and setbacks are a normal part of life.
No matter who it is, no matter how successful they are, everyone experiences setbacks and challenges.
This is as true as the sun rising in the East, and as true as us needing Oxygen to survive.
Setbacks and challenges are universal experiences.
Everyone experiences them.
Some more than others.
Some bigger than the rest.
The degree and type may vary, but one thing that is certain is this – absolutely no one is exempt from experiencing challenges, and setbacks.
It doesn’t matter who they are.
So it should come as no surprise to know that one’s ability to deal with such “challenges” makes a big impact on the course of their lives.
How someone deals with challenges and setbacks determines how successful they are, or not.
That also has a big impact on how happy or unhappy the person is, since challenges and setbacks influence our happiness levels.
And this is usually what sets apart those at the top, and the rest.
Suffice to say, your ability to deal with challenges and setbacks plays a key role in your life.
So, how do you boost your ability to deal with challenges and setbacks?
The key to that is changing your mindset.
Yes, mindset again.
Like I mentioned before, the way you think impacts everything.
I’ve talked about mindset a fair amount over the last few weeks, and if you’ve followed them you know just how important mindset is to every facet of your life.
And you also know that changing it does not happen overnight. It takes perseverance and practice to change one’s mindset.
But when it comes to dealing with challenges, I have a mindset hack for you, something that can jump-start your ability to face them, and deal with them well.
Want to know what the mindset hack for success is?
Here it is: it is to change the language you use.
The way you think about something, anything really, is by and large dependent on the words and phrases you use to describe them.
As such, how you deal with a particular situation changes when you change the language you use to describe the situation.
Makes sense, right?
Don’t worry if it doesn’t, because I will expand on this.
Specifically when it comes to the word in question today – the word “failure”.
I am not exaggerating when I say that there is a hugely negative connotation attached to the word “failure”.
You know this yourself.
But here’s what you need to understand – words have power.
And just by making this one change, just by changing the language you use to describe a situation, can make a big difference to your ability to deal with the situation.
It can be the difference between dealing with a challenging situation or giving up.
Let me ask you something, which seems more possible to you – overcoming a challenging or difficult situation, or overcoming failure? They are both the same situation. Both of these phrases – “overcoming a challenging situation” and “overcoming a failure” can be used to describe the exact same scenario. But because of the negative meaning attached to the word failure, the second scenario seems much harder to deal with, and much harder to overcome, doesn’t it?
Which one hits harder, and feels worse: experiencing a “failure”, or experiencing a “setback”?
Everyone hates being a “failure”, but no one hates “overcoming challenges”.
If anything, the latter can actually inspire people to deal with a situation!
Just changing the words you use makes a huge impact on your ability to deal with a situation.
It can, in fact, completely transform your ability to overcome more or less anything!
Let’s face it, dealing with challenges and setbacks are a natural part of life.
You might not like it (no one does, really), but the sooner you accept this reality, the sooner you can start working on preparing yourself to deal with such situations.
And overcoming them.
With me so far?
Here is something I want you to realise – failures, or rather, challenges and setbacks, are hardly ever, if ever, the end.
They are only the end of you give up.
That is the only time they become conclusive.
But until that point, you give up, those situations are just momentary speed bumps, speed bumps that you need to get over to move on.
Until you decide to throw in the towel, you are still in the ring, and you still have a shot.
Understand that, and I mean really understand that, and you will not only significantly change how you deal with difficult situations in your life, you will also give your ability to overcome challenges and setbacks a massive boost.
If not completely transform them.
Everyone deals with challenges.
But those who face them head-on are the ones who move forward.
And changing the language you use to describe such situations can give your ability to overcome challenges a massive boost.
So be more mindful of the words you use to describe the situations in your life.
Especially the difficult ones.
Because there are no failures, only challenging situations and setbacks waiting to be overcome.
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