“Do what you feel” is NOT good advice.
It’s overly simplistic.
Open to misinterpretation.
Doesn’t factor in a whole host of nuances, and elements.
Public safety is one such important element that it doesn’t factor in.
You can’t do whatever you feel like if that puts others at risk.
If you don’t agree, think about this: how will you feel (or react) if someone doing “what they felt like doing” put you and/or your loved ones in jeopardy?
“Do what you feel” is really not the absolute black and white advice it sounds like.
A better, more accurate, advice is more along the lines of: do what you feel like after you have thought it through, it does not harm, and is good for you.
You do have to take all three of these factors into account:
1. Think through the consequences
2. No harm done
3. Beneficial for you
It all falls apart if you miss out on even one of those.
The first one involves critical thinking – that’s a big part of this process.
No critical thinking can lead to serious implications.
To you and others, or worse – to both!
The second factor, no harm done, also has serious consequences for you, and others.
You should live a life that doesn’t cause harm to others.
That’s one of our basic human duties.
As for the third critical factor, if there’s no benefit to you it will cause dissatisfaction, and lack of personal growth.
It’s not the same as being selfish though, because you certainly can be generous. The point here is that you should look after yourself too.
Helping others is not a zero sum game, and is not the same as being a martyr.
At the end of the day, it’s all about balance.
It’s about being smart about the whole thing.
It’s about thinking for yourself.
So whenever you come across an overly simplistic advice like that, think about it (and I mean really think it through) before accepting and/or acting on it.