Self care isn’t selfish

Self care isn’t a fad, it’s a necessary habit. It’s a mindset that will help you to do more not just for yourself, but for others too. Often self care is thought is as a selfish attitude. But nothing could be further from the truth. Looking after yourself does not make you a selfish person. […]

What can you do better?

There’s always room for improvement. No matter how good you are, there are always ways you can improve. No matter how well you do something, there’s always the potential to do better. No matter how well you deal with challenges, there’s always the possibility to deal with them better. It’s just the nature of growth […]

Are external factors defining who you are?

It is really easy to let external factors define who we are. Especially the traumatic ones. I know, I’ve been there… There will always be things in our lives that impact us negatively. Some of them a lot. And it can be really easy to become bitter or sad and live your life like that. But here’s the important […]

Using pain and pleasure to form habits

Achieving something regularly, especially when it comes to building a new habit, involves motivation. Motivating yourself daily can be hard – life gets in the way, things stop being quite as interesting, you lose the initial zeal, and so on… But there are ways to ensure that you stick to the habit, which is where […]

Are you living your life, or too busy trying to make life happen?

One absolute truth about life is the fact that everything in life is temporary. Nothing lasts forever. Be it people. Or things. Or experiences. People come and go. Some stay longer than others. But no one will be there forever – be it because some people are just not meant to be there with you […]

How to get a handle on your emotions

Most things in our lives are out of our control. But one thing that we do have some control over is how we deal with things, i.e. our reactions/emotions. But even that takes work. Controlling your emotions doesn’t happen automatically. It requires knowing and understanding them. That takes effort and practice. If you want to […]

Choosing right over easy

Doing the right thing isn’t always easy. But that makes it even more important to do them, because choosing easy over right leads you down a road you will regret. Choosing right always trumps choosing easy, especially in the long term. Right is what leads you to a better life. Right is what leads you […]

Giving up is not the same as facing reality

Pragmatism is important. But is not the same as giving up. The difference can often be a very thin line… Facing reality is when you stop doing something because you know for certain that continuing on that path is pointless. Giving up is where you stop doing something not because you’ve exhausted every avenue and […]

My 5 step framework for effectively dealing with anxiety and stress

Anxiety and stress are experienced by everyone. No one really is completely immune to anxiety. We all feel it, and that’s not a bad thing. Anxiety is a survival mechanism – it helped us survive, and still does. Without a bit of anxiety, we would stop being vigilant, and become too complacent. But it becomes […]

Stop letting your fears hold you back

If you have been procrastinating on a goal because you’re worried about it failing… stop. Stop holding yourself back. Stop worrying about what might happen. Nobody knows the future. The best you can do is the best you can do. So just start already. Stop letting your fears hold you back.