Self care isn’t selfish

Self care isn’t a fad, it’s a necessary habit. It’s a mindset that will help you to do more not just for yourself, but for others too. Often self care is thought is as a selfish attitude. But nothing could be further from the truth. Looking after yourself does not make you a selfish person. […]

What is the point of life?

What is the point of life? Self awareness and fulfillment? Taking care of ourselves? But they can’t be the point of life, and I will elaborate why below. Self care, self love, self awareness, etc are all important because at the end of the day if you don’t take care of yourself you will be […]

Are external factors defining who you are?

It is really easy to let external factors define who we are. Especially the traumatic ones. I know, I’ve been there… There will always be things in our lives that impact us negatively. Some of them a lot. And it can be really easy to become bitter or sad and live your life like that. But here’s the important […]

Using pain and pleasure to form habits

Achieving something regularly, especially when it comes to building a new habit, involves motivation. Motivating yourself daily can be hard – life gets in the way, things stop being quite as interesting, you lose the initial zeal, and so on… But there are ways to ensure that you stick to the habit, which is where […]

Are you living your life, or too busy trying to make life happen?

One absolute truth about life is the fact that everything in life is temporary. Nothing lasts forever. Be it people. Or things. Or experiences. People come and go. Some stay longer than others. But no one will be there forever – be it because some people are just not meant to be there with you […]

My 5 step framework for effectively dealing with anxiety and stress

Anxiety and stress are experienced by everyone. No one really is completely immune to anxiety. We all feel it, and that’s not a bad thing. Anxiety is a survival mechanism – it helped us survive, and still does. Without a bit of anxiety, we would stop being vigilant, and become too complacent. But it becomes […]

Do you really want what you think you want?

Being popular and in-demand can be great. Until you’re too much in demand, too popular. Then it can become a burden. That’s why a lot of celebs go to extreme lengths to hide or disguise their identity when they go out. And go to great lengths to protect their privacy. Most have guards, and security, […]

The pursuit of materialism

The world now revolves around materialism. The pursuit of having more, buying more, and getting more defines our society these days, by and large. That is not a good thing. Either for us individually. Or collectively. And it’s certainly not good for the world as a whole. Materialism is a short-term strategy that favours small […]

Two things to try when you are in a bad mood

Pretending to not be in a bad mood… Does not really work. You can smile to hide your anger, but that does not get rid of your anger. You can fake being enthusiastic, but that does not get rid of your frustration. You can act like you are happy, but that does not get rid […]

The five things you can control

Life is unpredictable. You can’t control a lot of things. In fact, most things in life you can’t control. But here are 5 things you can control: 1. Your thoughts 2. Your words 3. Your choices 4. Your actions 5. Your reactions Focus on what you can control, rather than wasting time and energy on […]