Criticisms are a difficult, but normal part of progress

No one likes criticism.
It’s not nice.
It’s hardly ever, if ever, pleasant.
Most people who criticise don’t do it to be constructive, but to be mean.
They do it to feel superior.
They do it to get a break from their life.
They do it to fit in and look good.
Etc, etc.
There are loads of reasons why people do it, but more often than not it is not an honest evaluation.
Usually personal criticisms are just reflections of how someone is feeling, feels about you, the weather, their life I general, and so on.
On a personal level most people don’t like criticisms because it makes them feel bad.
It calls into question their work, and even them to a large degree.
It can make them judge their self worth by these opinions, because we are programmed to take into account how other people evaluate us.
Because we are social beings.
This validation seeking behaviour is a remnant from our ancestors, who developed this behaviour to survive.
But gone are the days when you need others to survive.
Gone are the days when others opinion of you needs to be an essential part of being.
So it’s important to realise that how others view you does not define who you are.
Especially when they are personal criticisms.
But do note them to improve things, especially when they’re about your work.
The more you put yourself – and your work – out there, the more critics you’ll have.
Use that as a measure of you moving in the right direction.
And not as a barometer for measuring your, or your work’s, worth.

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