Self care isn’t selfish

Self care isn’t a fad, it’s a necessary habit.
It’s a mindset that will help you to do more not just for yourself, but for others too.
Often self care is thought is as a selfish attitude.
But nothing could be further from the truth.
Looking after yourself does not make you a selfish person.
It makes you a smart person.
Because unless you look after yourself, you can’t look after others, not for long anyway.
Take care of yourself first.
Your wellbeing is important.

What is the point of life?

What is the point of life?
Self awareness and fulfillment?
Taking care of ourselves?
But they can’t be the point of life, and I will elaborate why below.
Self care, self love, self awareness, etc are all important because at the end of the day if you don’t take care of yourself you will be of no good to anyone.
But that can’t be, and is not, the end goal. Because if all we did was take care of ourselves, made ourselves happy and then died when our time was up – it would be a very meaningless existence.
For everyone else, it would be as if the person never existed.
No, I believe our existence far precedes our own needs and wants.
Our existence is about making a difference.
A life spent in pursuit of only one’s own happiness doesn’t lead to a life of meaning, a life spent in the pursuit of making a difference does.
Steve Jobs’ quote about making a dent in the universe is one of my favourite quotes.
We are all here to make a dent in the universe.
Some will make bigger dents than others, and that’s ok.
The point isn’t about who makes a bigger dent, but rather about making a dent, a difference.
How we do that is up to us.
Making a difference is what makes humans such an incredible race.
It is what makes the world such a great place.
It is what makes life worthwhile, and worth living.
Make your dent in the universe.

Passive helping streams

Have you heard of passive income streams? The idea with them is that you create income streams that continue to generate income from work you do once.

It’s a great strategy, one that I applied to my passion for helping people.
I have a few passive streams for helping people.
They continue to help people from one-time work.
This includes my books, blogs and other writings, as well as people I’ve advised, coached and mentored.

I hit upon the idea years back, when I posted reviews based on places I’d travelled to on Tripadvisor.
The reviews I posted there continue to help people even to this day.

I knew about passive income streams, so I wanted to emulate that principle for helping others.
And that’s what my books do.
As well as my blog posts and other writings.

And I will continue to build similar passive helping streams so that people continue to benefit from my work long after I’m gone.
That will be one of my legacies.
One of the ways in which my work will continue to make the world a bit better every day.
One of the ways I want my life to mean something, and matter, and make a positive difference.

How about you – do you have any passive helping streams?

What being powerful is not about

Being powerful isn’t about being better than others.
Or talking down to people.
Or treating people badly.

People who are truly powerful are people who are generous, kind and good.

They are genuine and authentic.
They mean what they say.
They do good – not to show off, or get adoration and acclamation, but because they genuinely care, and want to do good.

In fact, it’s their good and authentic nature that makes them truly powerful.
Because power gained through force or deception doesn’t last long.
There’s a reason why despots and tyrants don’t last long.
There’s also a reason why often the most powerful people are the ones who don’t want to yield any power.

Do good, to the best of your ability.
Because at the end of the day, that really is what matters.

Mindset of entitlement

Bullies have a mindset of entitlement.
They believe they are entitled to whatever it is they want.

Some people just have this mindset.
They just believe that they are “entitled” to stuff.

The reality is, they are entitled to nothing.

I hate that sort of mindset, that sort of mentality.
That’s one of the reasons why I hate assholes.

No one is “entitled” to anything.
You earn what you deserve…
Or, you deserve nothing.

Never have a sense of entitlement.
Earn it.