Have you heard of the saying: “you always have a choice”?
It’s a common one.
It’s one of the bedrocks of the self development field.
And it’s grossly misused.
Yes, you do have a choice.
But… it’s not a blanket rule that applies to everything.
There are nuances, and caveats, that you need to know about and understand.
The main thing to understand about that phrase, about you always having a choice, is that it’s talking about your response.
A more accurate expression then would be = you always have a choice re. how you respond.
If the choice rule was universal then in theory you’d have a choice about the curve balls life throws at you right?
But you don’t.
None of us do.
Because most things in life we have no control over.
Control, at the end of the day, is an illusion.
But one of the few things that we do have control over is our response.
We CAN control how we respond to things, including the curve balls.
The good news is, you can train yourself to respond better.
To respond in ways that help you, and others.
To respond in ways that help you move forward, and make progress.
How you respond to things matter, a lot.
It can be the difference between you thriving, or you just scraping by.
It can be the difference between you having a good day, or a bad one.
It is one of the most important factors in determining the overall quality of your life.
So yes, you do have a choice, but not with everything.
Because most things in life are out of our control.
Don’t accept “you always have a choice” as a blanket rule.
Don’t think it’s universal and applies to everything, and then get frustrated when it doesn’t.
Understand what it really means.
Then work towards using it to improve your life, and make your impact.
You can only make lemonade when life gives you lemons IF you respond to it well; if your response helps you to keep moving forward, and make the most of the challenges.
It won’t be easy.
But you can do it.
You absolutely do always have a choice – with how you respond.
So choose wisely.