It is really easy to let external factors define who we are.
Especially the traumatic ones.
I know, I’ve been there…
There will always be things in our lives that impact us negatively.
Some of them a lot.
And it can be really easy to become bitter or sad and live your life like that.
But here’s the important thing to understand: these external factors, especially the negative ones, they can only define us if we let them.
That’s the key to it.
No one has a perfect life.
Everyone has challenges – some big, some small.
But we all have a choice in how the challenges (and bad experiences) impact us: we can let them define who we are, or we can make a conscious decision about who we are.
We do have a choice.
But only if we exercise it.
Exercise your ability to choose for yourself.
Don’t let external factors define who you are.
One absolute truth about life is the fact that everything in life is temporary.
Nothing lasts forever.
Be it people.
People come and go. Some stay longer than others. But no one will be there forever – be it because some people are just not meant to be there with you for the long haul, or because life sometimes gets in the way, or because death comes for all of us…
Things aren’t everlasting – they are not permanent. Some things perish, others lose utility, while some get lost somehow.
Experiences fade. With time some experiences disappear while others fade, and some just get replaced while others are blocked and forgotten.
The point is, nothing in life is forever.
So it’s important to make the most of what you have right now.
People – Live fully with the good people in your life. Fully enjoy the time you have with them because you never know how much time you have with them.
Things – Make the most of the things you have. Get the most out of them so that eventually when they aren’t there you won’t have any regrets (e.g. don’t just buy things if you aren’t going to use them or enjoy them).
Experiences – Embrace the experiences you have (and seek out). Fully enjoy the good ones, and learn from the not-so-good ones.
It can be challenging, to pay attention to things now because we get distracted, and life gets in the way. But that is what often leads to regrets.
It’s not hard though. Being present in the moment – being mindful – is a great place to start.
Live your life, rather than spending all your time and energy on trying to make life happen.
Nothing in life is permanent, so it is important to make the most of what you have while you can.
Are you mindful of the people, things, and experiences in your life?
Are you living your life, or too busy trying to make life happen?